10 signs of hidden anxiety
Everyone is well known external manifestations of anxiety: Panic attacks, sharp mood swings, looping on alarming thoughts and immersion. But it happens that the alarm does not "rise to the surface", and accumulates deep inside. Yes, you tormented you constant anxiety, but you continue to live a common life and fulfill your duties, and others do not even suspect that you really happen to you.
Such anxiety is called high functional or hidden. "This is not an official clinical diagnosis, but such a term describes well the state of people who gives significant discomfort, but still does not interfere with functioning normally, – explains the clinical psychologist Alicia Clark. – And if it still prevents, they are diagnosed with "anxiety disorder".
Hidden anxiety – a kind of psyche protection mechanism from possible problems. "Some it seems that if they psychologically prepare for all potential troubles, then thereby protect themselves from disappointments and failures," says Kli Clinical Psychologist. As a result, you get satisfaction from what you managed to avoid failure and from the fact that you have achieved success (it is often happening at the same time).
If in this description you recognized yourself, you are not alone, and your problem can be solved. To do this, first of all, it is worth disassembling the main signs of hidden anxiety.
1. You are all excellent at work, but there are difficulties in personal life
"People suffering from hidden anxiety often tend to apply in personal relationships the same behaviors that helped them achieve their career success," explains the main psychologist of the Montefiore Medical Center Simon Ruggy.
But your loved ones are not colleagues and not subordinate. Other rules are mainly operating outside the office. "In personal life there is always an element of chaos, she is poorly controlled, and success in this area – the concept is much more asleep and blurred than career growth," said Karly Clains. Some is very difficult to terms with this, they even seem to be losers in everything, except for work.
2. From the side it seems that the ambitions are driven, but in fact – anxiety
At first glance, a person who works almost without days and instantly responds to emails may seem very ambitious. In fact, you are alarming. You will not be customized not the desire to succeed, but the fear of being a loser. "This behavior is usually caused by fear of possible troubles: loss of reputation or even a complete failure in work," carly insists Karly.
3. Others think everything goes smoothly, but in fact it is very hard for you
"Hidden alarm suffering is usually confident: the best way to cope with anxiety is to take everything under control. So they prefer to plan everything in advance and draw up lists of cases. It helps them to avoid surprises, control the alarm and generally optimize life, "explains Alicia Clark.
"But if you are accustomed to always force yourself to post all 100%, these lists and plans can turn out of assistance in the burden," adds Clark. As a result, we drag ourselves, we are tired, even more worried, we begin to postpone affairs and neglect our duties, which only aggravates our state.
4. Any violation of the usual routine displays you
If you are accustomed to fight anxiety, planning everything in advance, any violation of plans due to unforeseen circumstances can bring you out of themselves. "Irritation in this situation often arises because of fear," explains Karly Clan. We are not ready for unexpected interference and are afraid to finally lose control of the situation, which further enhances the alarm.
5. You can’t relax, even when very tired
"The hidden alarm suffers usually understand that they need a reasonable balance in life and a full-fledged rest to be effective, but in practice it is difficult for them to relax or distract from worries," says Alicia Clark.
Evenings are usually busy with household chores, and if they avoid them, they are tormented by a feeling of guilt for allowing themselves to relax. And even "rest" they, just switching to a little less tedious activity.